You’ve been on dating apps for months. You get matches, but they never go anywhere. The conversations fizzle. The dates are forgettable. You’re starting to think the apps just don’t work.
But here’s the truth: it’s not the apps – it’s your profile. Your bio is a mess. Your photos are doing you no favors. You’re repelling the very people you want to attract.
In this article, we’ll do a complete profile overhaul – and show you how to attract quality matches.
SUBHEADING: The “Profile” Autopsy
Your Photos:
- Do you have a clear face shot? No sunglasses, no hats, no group shots where you’re hard to spot.
- Do you have a full?body shot? Be honest. You’re not fooling anyone.
- Do you have an action shot? Doing something you love – hiking, cooking, playing an instrument.
- Do you have a social shot? With friends, laughing, having fun.
Your Bio:
- Is it generic? “I love travel and wine” – so does everyone. Be specific.
- Is it negative? “No drama” or “Don’t waste my time” – this signals baggage.
- Is it honest? Are you presenting the real you, or a fantasy version?
SUBHEADING: The “Attraction” Profile
Here’s what works:
Step 1: Hook Them in the First Line
The first sentence is everything. Don’t start with “Hi, I’m [name].” Start with something intriguing:
- “I’ve been to 47 countries, and my favorite is still the one I haven’t visited yet.”
- “I’m a terrible cook, but I’m great at ordering takeout and making you laugh.”
- “I’m looking for someone who can keep up with my wit – and my wanderlust.”
Step 2: Show, Don’t Tell
Instead of “I’m funny,” write something funny. Instead of “I’m adventurous,” mention a specific adventure.
Step 3: Be Specific
“I love wine” ? “My go?to wine is a bold Malbec, and I’m always looking for a new favorite.”
“I love travel” ? “I’m planning a trip to Japan next spring – any recommendations?”
Step 4: Include a Call to Action
Tell them what to do next. “Swipe right and tell me your favorite travel destination.” This makes it easy to start a conversation.
SUBHEADING: The “Consultation” Approach
A consultation can help you craft a profile that actually works. We’ll analyze your photos, rewrite your bio, and give you a strategy to attract the right people.
Your next step: Take one hour this week to overhaul your profile. Use the steps above.
If you want a guided “Profile Overhaul” checklist, I’ve created a free one.
